How To Deal With The Death Of A Pet
I don’t believe pets are just animals. When you have a pet, they become part of your family unit. You bond with them. You play with them. You do what you can to take care of them. You comfort them. And vice versa. Just because they cannot form words as we do doesn’t make them any less deserving of your love – or any less a part of your family.
I know it's not easy...
When our beloved pet goes back to the light, it’s hard. Very hard. Essentially, you’ve just lost a member of your family.
I know this grief personally when my sweet kitty Twinkie went back to the light at the end of 2016. I was completely gutted. Everyday she sat (rolled, slept, fussed, purred) on her little red platform next to me while I worked. She was my buddy, my teacher, my friend – my family.
How do you best deal with this grief?
The first thing you must do is talk about it with a friend or family member. It’s so important to get that sadness out – and vocalising how you feel is a brilliant way to do this.
Next, you need to feel that sadness but, then let it go. The heavy, sad feelings will recur, but each time – don’t deny them – allow yourself to feel them, then let it go. This process allows you to “cleanse” your energy of that sandess – not by avoiding – but by allowing the emotions to take their natural course through you.
Then as you do this, once you’ve hit that “exhausted” point in your grieving – I want you to consciously recall a positive, happy memory of your sweet pet. This will help you raise your energy up to the higher vibration they’re now made of – so you can connect on an energetic level. It might sound strange, but trust me – it works 🙂
When Twinkie crossed over, it honestly took me quite a while to let go of the grief – months even. But every time I felt the sadness, I allowed myself to feel it – I was not going to deny my honest and pure feelings for the friend I just lost.
I sobbed. I cried. I felt guilty for what I thought I “could have, should have” done in the past. But then, as I felt myself coming to the end of that moment of grief – I let the grief go.
Then began to infuse myself with my love for Twinkie. I would laugh at the memory of her silly antics (she used to put her paw on my mouth while I was reading at night – as though to “shoosh” me to say quiet), or a funny moment (when she kept her tongue fully extended for an hour after grooming), or a moment when she melted my heart (when she pushed and nestled her purring head in my hand as I fell asleep upon returning from a long absence away from home).
By this point, I’m no longer full of grief – I’m full of my love for her — and in that intertwining of higher energy — I am intertwined with her, at that moment. The sad energy was gone from my heart, and HER energy entered into it. I owe her that space and I will always cherish her presence in my heart.
How do you let go?
Remember them for what you loved them for! This process won’t be easy – but it’s necessary. No matter what happened, you did the best you could, and they know it. If you need help with this process of opening your heart to love the memory of your pet, please watch or read my blog post about Loving Wholeheartedly here.
Let your emotions flow – so you can finally welcome their love & light into your heart. And then one day, that’s all you’ll feel when you think of them and feel their presence.
Pet Grief Meditation
What’s more, I created a pet grief meditation (video below) that helped me process my emotions so I could get to a point where I could welcome the higher vibration energy of Twinkie into my heart. I can honestly say that it was this process that has allowed me to maintain my beautiful connection with my girl – in her new form 🙂
I hope you found something in this post that’s been helpful for you during your grieving process. And if you know of anyone else who might benefit from these steps or my meditation, please share it with them. I thank you for your time and for your kindness sweet friends. Big love x