Live your life fully...
As I make my way through this journey we call life, it’s become more and more clear that in order to live as full a life as possible, I must be open to feeling all of its sensations – including the less-than-perfect, not-so-good, oh-bugger, and down-right negative ones, too.
To be clear, in my reverie today, I’m not talking about chasing down a bad feeling or creating a situation so you can be like “mmm, this feels horrible” and I’m not referring to being okay with chronic pain.
By being emotionally limber
Little do we realise that as a result of the massive collection of experiences we accumulated in life, we become inflexible on how to deal with things, we don’t give allowance for differences or mistakes, and we’re quick to judge. What’s interesting about this is, in accumulating those negative feelings and embracing them longer than what’s necessary to acknowledge them to let them go – we end up becoming what we don’t like.
This response is so rigid, so purpose-built that it became hard-wired into our brain. And that’s where the loss of flexibility sets in. Almost like, there is no other possible way one could react to something bad.
We cannot control the things that happen outside or around us – but we can control how we respond to those things.
All you have to do is choose anew...
Your brain is an amazing tool, so whether it’s been hardwired to react a certain way for 10, 20, 30, or more years – even science says – it can be re-wired to help you live a more full life. Not one devoid of the negative, but one that accepts and reacts to it in a way that validates what has happened without being any less of the good person you are.
So instead of recoiling at the negative, responding with anger, judgement, or something else – how about re-wiring your brain and pick a response that is peaceful, understanding, or at the very least, kind?
Every time you pick something new, something different – you are leading your brain on a new path of discovery and creating new neurological connections. This isn’t fantasy, this is fact – when you do something new, you are teaching your brain “hey this is where I want to go,” you are stretching its abilities, you are showing it the response you prefer. The more you pick the positive, the stronger that connection becomes, until one day, it’s hard-wired to be your response.
To be loving, kind, understanding, and accepting in the face of negativity is the very thing which dissipates it. This is a pathway worth teaching to your brain, it’s worth practicing.
Anything you want to learn starts with a first step. So make today the day you promise to become more emotional flexible, to live your life more fully, and no longer be a captive to negative experiences.